Who pays when you go out with 'just a friend' to a restaurant?

Posts
10
Created
23.10.2015

Poll: Who pays when you go out with 'just a friend' to a restaurant?

Please LOG IN to vote.
Senator

Level 129
Sex Appeal 1698018
Reputation 6850
Posts 7216
Freethinkerland
23.10.2015 06:51:06
HeavenLeighBimbo

I was a little bothered today by someone.  I was invited by a guy to lunch today.  Why should I complain, right?   I was a bit irritated when he picked up my tab.  I went a bit overboard with my spending, because I just assumed it was a friendly lunch together and I would be paying for myself...  I was horrified that my companion picked up the entire check despite repeated protests from me.   
Everyone has bills to pay, and to think he paid for me to be so wasteful made me think that there was more to this invitation, than just lunch. I don't really think that single bill fit into his budget very well. I had plenty of money on hand in cash to pay for my fair.  I like talking to him but I'm not socially into him like that, and I don't think I have given any signs to the contrary. Who is going to pay the bill, unfortunately didn't come up, while eating.   It made me think that if a man does that without your consent, it can actually ruin a friendship.  (At least for me.)    I don't like feeling like I owe somebody something just because they picked up the tab for food and drink.  Special occasions, are exempt of course. Birthdays holidays, ect.....

    Any Thoughts?



23.10.2015 06:51:06
Image result for winter wonderland banner
Citizen

Level 7
Sex Appeal 235
Reputation 384
Posts 42
Secville
25.10.2015 10:05:25
meggsbabeh

I guess it depends on the circumstances. Personally, I prefer to pay for myself, which I usually do if it's just me and another person. I don't like it when someone just grabs the tab without even saying a thing. Often, people just assume it's a nice gesture, sometimes it can also be to show superiority and sometimes it can come off as pretentious. Sometimes when I go out with friends in a larger group, we split the bill evenly. So if there was like 5 of us and the bill was $250, we would pay $50 each. However, if someone clearly had excessively more than everyone else, be it an extra course or a few extra drinks, they would always put in a bit extra. 

25.10.2015 10:05:25
Citizen

Level 8
Sex Appeal 1344
Reputation 1736
Posts 354
Secville
26.10.2015 09:01:29
Remi

Tbh unless you're married (because shared finances) - you pay for yourself. Or you split it evenly enough that one person pays for one thing you get and another pays for another thing, for instance when I go to the cinema with someone one of us pays for the tickets and the other pays for the snacks!

26.10.2015 09:01:29
Secville's renowned Designer!
Citizen

Level 17
Sex Appeal 6767
Reputation 6850
Posts 666
Freethinkerland
26.10.2015 23:54:13
chrystal calore

If it's just a friend, it shouldn't be a big deal

26.10.2015 23:54:13
Citizen

Level 18
Sex Appeal 7314
Reputation 6850
Posts 1257
Freethinkerland
28.10.2015 04:55:17
Lilliandra

depends on the situation. IF I go out with my girlfriends, we usually just take turns paying. When I go out with guys, depends... some, the ones that we are clearly both in the friend zone, we take turns... others, if there is any romantic interest rather than encouraging it, I just pay for me and let them pay for them :)

28.10.2015 04:55:17
Energy goes where attention flows... we all create our own reality with our thoughts and focus
Citizen

Level 21
Sex Appeal 7289
Reputation 5383
Posts 2099
Secville
28.10.2015 18:32:30
Ceres

I prefer to pay my own bill. I mean it may be common courtesy for the inviter( a man) to do it but i rather pay for my own meal. if they're persistant then i just may reconsider.  

28.10.2015 18:32:30
Citizen

Level 21
Sex Appeal 7289
Reputation 5383
Posts 2099
Secville
28.10.2015 18:32:30
Ceres

I prefer to pay my own bill. I mean it may be common courtesy for the inviter( a man) to do it but i rather pay for my own meal. if they're persistant then i just may reconsider.  

28.10.2015 18:32:30
Citizen

Level 58
Sex Appeal 154607
Reputation 25060
Posts 405
Agnostica
30.10.2015 21:15:39
Telaphone

I'll generally pay for myself unless there is a mutual understanding that someone else will pay for the whole meal.

30.10.2015 21:15:39
Citizen

Level 21
Sex Appeal 10202
Reputation 6850
Posts 192
Freethinkerland
02.11.2015 23:16:13
icekream

Typically I pay for myself but sometimes I'll be feeling generous and pick up their tab. In this scenario however, it kinda sounds like he's digging you. But then again, I do have a friend who really is just a friend (mutual friend of my boyfriend and I) and he typically likes to pick up my tab , but he's practically loaded and I'm practically poor c; .

02.11.2015 23:16:13
Citizen

Level 13
Sex Appeal 1586
Reputation 1028
Posts 21
Antitheocra
07.11.2015 21:00:35
Nadia

split the bill :D 50/50 

07.11.2015 21:00:35
──────▄▀▄─────▄▀▄
─────▄█░░▀▀▀▀▀░░█▄
─▄▄──█░░░░░░░░░░░█──▄▄
█▄▄█─█░░▀░░┬░░▀░░█─█▄▄█

Please LOGIN to post a reply.

Welcome to the Fashionable republic of Ximboland

Web Development by Design Forge

Ximboland asks you to accept cookies for performance, social media and advertising purposes. Social media and advertising cookies of third parties are used to offer you social media functionalities and personalised ads. To get more information about these cookies and the processing of your personal data, check our Privacy & Cookie Policy.
For more information on Google's privacy policy please see here. By continuing to browse you consent to our cookies.
OK

Cookies and Policy


Cookies Policy

Ximbolands uses cookies on https://ximbo.land. By using the Service, you consent to the use of cookies.

Our Cookies Policy explains what cookies are, how we use cookies, how third-parties we may partner with may use cookies on the Service, your choices regarding cookies and further information about cookies.

What are cookies

Cookies are small pieces of text sent by your web browser by a website you visit. A cookie file is stored in your web browser and allows the Service or a third-party to recognize you and make your next visit easier and the Service more useful to you.

Cookies can be "persistent" or "session" cookies.

How Ximbolands uses cookies

When you use and access the Service, we may place a number of cookies files in your web browser.

We use cookies for the following purposes: to enable certain functions of the Service, to provide analytics, to store your preferences, to enable advertisements delivery, including behavioral advertising.

We use both session and persistent cookies on the Service and we use different types of cookies to run the Service. We may use essential cookies to authenticate users and prevent fraudulent use of user accounts.

Third-party cookies

In addition to our own cookies, we may also use various third-parties cookies to report usage statistics of the Service, deliver advertisements on and through the Service, and so on.

What are your choices regarding cookies

If you'd like to delete cookies or instruct your web browser to delete or refuse cookies, please visit the help pages of your web browser.

Please note, however, that if you delete cookies or refuse to accept them, you might not be able to use all of the features we offer, you may not be able to store your preferences, and some of our pages might not display properly.

Where can your find more information about cookies

You can learn more about cookies and the following third-party websites:

×

Frequently Asked Questions


What is Ximboland ?
The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland is the worlds first democratic social media platform.

What is its mission?
Ximbolands mission is to serve the world by offering a truly democratic alternative to the established, familiar and autocratic social media platforms.

The establishment of The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland is a response to the widespread demand for a democratic alternative to autocratic social media governance. The world’s major social media platforms claim to be based on good will and fair governance however most seek to impose their world-view on all of their users.
Ximboland recognizes that democracy is the antidote to this problem.

What is the national flag of Ximboland?
Ximbolands Flag

When was The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland founded?
2007

What is the capital city of The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland?
Bimbo City

How many states make up The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland?
There are 6 states that make up The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland. They are ­ Atheistia, Freethinkerland, Reasonopia, Agnostica, Secville, and Antitheocra. Bimbo City is the neutral administrative capital and is its own city zone. Booby Island is the home of the President of the Fashionable republic of Ximboland - Sindy Laarson I aka Miss Bimbo

What is a Ximbo xitizen?
A ‘Ximbo xitizen’ is a citizen of The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland. All citizens must be at least 18 years old.

What is a Ximbo?
Some people define a Ximbo as a superhuman - blessed with extraordinary good looks, intelligence and fashion sense.
Some people claim a Ximbo is a genderless or nonbinary superhuman. Either way - all Ximbos possess the X factor.

How can I become a Ximbo xitizen?
In order to become a xitizen of Ximboland you must first pass the Ximboland xitizens test. It is free to become a Ximbo xitizen.

What is a Ximbo senator?
A Ximbo senator is a senior member of The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland. Only xenators are eligible to put themselves forward for election to senior government roles. Ximbos also get 10 x votes in all elections so they really do shape Ximbolands future.

What is a Ximbo minister?
A Ximbo minister is an elected or appointed official in the Ximboland government. These Ximbos are our leaders.

Who is the Prime Ximbo?
The Prime Ximbo is the democratically elected head of The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland.

Where does the Prime Ximbo live?
The Prime Ximbo lives in the Pink House for the 3 month term they are in office.

I want to become a minister or Prime Ximbo. How do I do that?
Any Ximbo citizen can become Prime Ximbo using the democratic process. Its a 2 stage process from Senator>Prime Ximbo. All Ximbo xitizens can vote in general elections but in order to put themselves forward to become Prime Ximbo/a minister they must first become a Ximbo senator.

Can I become Prime Ximbo more than once?
Yes ­ a Ximbo can hold the position of Prime Ximbo for 6 terms max.

How often do elections take place?
The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland holds elections every 3 months for Prime Ximbo and every 3 months for State Ministers.

Where do important discussions take place?
The Town Square.

What is the treasury/ministers/Prime Ximbos salary?
The treasury/salary is the bank account of The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland. This figure is transferred to the paypal account of the Prime Ximbo at the end of their 3 month term in charge.

How is the treasury calculated?
The treasury is funded by the Ximbo xenators.
A percentage (33%) of the money paid by Ximbo xenators via Paypal is transferred into the Ximbo treasury. The rest is used for further Ximboland development.

What are the national colours of Ximboland?
Pink and purple

How old must I be in order to become a Ximboland xitizen?
Anyone over the age of 18 can become a Ximbo xitizen.

When are the national holidays of Ximbo land?
Jan 1st ­ New years day
Feb 12th ­ Darwin day
Feb 14th ­ Lovers day
March 8th ­ Womens day
March 21st ­ Spring solstice
April 13th ­ The Hitchslap Day (Christopher Hitchens birthday)
May 3rd ­ National day of reason
June 21st ­ World Humanist Day
Aug 2nd ­ The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland national day
Sep 21st ­ Peace one day
Dec 25th ­ Newtons birthday

What are the currencies of Ximboland?
The Ximbo Dollar (B$). Currently it is pegged in value to the US$ and the Ximbo Diamond.

Dec 25th ­ Newtons birthday

Who is the President of Ximboland?
Sindy Laaron I aka Miss Bimbo is the President of Ximboland. She founded the great bimbo nation in 2007 after escaping the tyranny, poor fashion jealousy of the old world. You can read more about her here and here

Where is MissBimbo.com?
The Fashionable Republic of Ximboland was created by Miss Bimbo herself and is its successor.

×
×

Type name of the Ximbo you are looking for...